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She called me... told me she didn't mean to dial my number, was intending to call someone else...
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She called me... told me she didn't mean to dial my number, was intending to call someone else... She called me... told me she didn't mean to dial my number, was intending to call someone else... She is the mother of one of my old flames from years ago... Her husband passed a few years ago... I re-connected with her in 2010, when the old flame found me on FB... There's nothing amorous or erotic in this relationship... My friend is a good egg... when I first dated her I was 14... The relationship with my old flame lasted till I was 19 and in college... we had moved from Kansas City to Dallas when I turned 16 and it was a crazy long-distance relationship to maintain... Prior to that, while we were dating my friend, yes, she is my friend now, would drive her and I to movies and museums and concerts and we had so much fun... she is a special lady... Having only one , a , has been challenging as that married 5 times and had many ... there's nothing wrong with that, but, when you are just one grandparent or just one great-grandparent on one side of the family it is hard to devote time, resources and energy... so, her call, earlier today, as a perceived mistake, ended up lasting for an hour... I hadn't spoken or texted her on FB in a while as she's been dealing with personal issues and things she needed to take care of... but, a series of unfortunate events have happened to her and she just needed to vent... so, I gave an ear to her, as over the years, I've seen her donate time to help her loved ones out and to save animals... every time I go up to Kansas City to visit family, I always make an effort to see her...my friend... whether we meet at the airport or at a restaurant or at her house, I always try to schedule something and she always makes time for me... It is interesting that I have kind of reversed roles with her, as now she asks me for advice on things, where as before, I would ask her for advice... she doesn't have many people to be her sounding board, as most pull on her because she is so giving and kind-hearted... so, today, she was feeling sad over the loss of yet another of her friends... as she ages, so do her close friends, and many have disappeared recently... She told me of the death of this dear girlfriend of hers that she had known for 40 years... and, that it is taking a toll on her life... I told her to go outside and scream... and, get it out of her system... I tell her, that sometimes I have to do that... just to let me know that I've vented and want to get it out of my system... so, since she was driving her car... she said ok... and screamed out loud... then, she started laughing and thanked me, because now she felt better that she had let some of this agony disappear and had shared the story with me... then, she told me that her sister was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's and dementia of some sort... she had introduced me to her sister when I went up to visit her in 2010. I liked her sister, but, since her sister hadn't met me, she was a little distant and she was also going thru a divorce... so, maybe, she didn't like men... period... well, that was then... so, we talked thru her options and what she is doing and I reminded her about my 's focus on Alzheimer's and dementia within her role as activities coordinator, so she could feel my empathy for her situation... and, she felt better about it... the bottom line, is that my friend, just needed a shoulder to cry on... someone that would listen... I didn't ask for anything... I didn't expect anything... she just wanted someone to talk to... I told her that she could call me anytime she wanted, and, it was ok, if was accidental... no worries... this is the same friend where I had sent her a Christmas gift one year, with the movie 'Saving Silverman' (she loves Neil Diamond, and hadn't seen the movie) and pet rocks with names of her grandchildren... she loved that... She said thanks and that she would keep me posted... If someone should reach out to you, please give them a few minutes of your time... they may not have anyone else to listen to... Have a great week!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!  |
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Hi sweet0necter. Thanks for reading and commenting (albeit the shortest comment I've received on one of my blogs...) on my blog... I hope that you enjoyed it... Have a great week!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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What a wonderful example of being there for someone when they needed it the most. Although she said it was an accident, who knows maybe it wasn't an accident. I think she knew that you would listen and provide the comforting shoulder that she needed. I learned a long time ago, that when I start thinking of someone, even if it is just a passing thought, that it is an indication that I should get in touch. You can never get back the chances that you miss. 
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What a wonderful example of being there for someone when they needed it the most. Although she said it was an accident, who knows maybe it wasn't an accident. I think she knew that you would listen and provide the comforting shoulder that she needed. I learned a long time ago, that when I start thinking of someone, even if it is just a passing thought, that it is an indication that I should get in touch. You can never get back the chances that you miss. Thanks for your comments... Yeah... that's what I thought... but, I felt, in her tone, that she needed someone to listen to her... and, not ask for anything, not need something... just listen... my grandfather told me years ago that if you had something to say to someone, that you needed to say it, because you might not get the chance in the future... that has stuck with me, and I extend that to the listening side... listening is the hardest part of a conversation... sometimes, we don't pay attention or feel that we have to be listened to... and, I have some chatty cathys in my life... so, I can do my share of listening... and, of course, some accuse me of talking too much... who would ever think that? hmmm... I called my mom the other day, and she was so happy to talk to me... the last three times, it is she that had called me... now, she has other sons and one daughter so, there is communication going on... but, I don't mind it... she did bring me into this world... the least I can do is give her moments of time... I like that when you start thinking of someone that you do reach out... I do that too!!! thanks again... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Everything happens for a reason. This just shows us how wonderful you are. A very sweet man with a kind heart! hugsssssssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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Hello SnuggleBuni. Thanks for your kind words. Maybe, you are right, no mistakes or accidental calls. And, yes, things do happen fo a reason. She thanked me for taking the time!!! Time is our most precious gift that we can invest freely in a person!!! Thanks again, for your comments! Have a great day! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Sweet story,and to have a friend, you need to be a friend,and you have that part covered! Sometimes the universe gives us what we need, not to sound all spacey,but I'm a firm believer! Everything happens for a reason, and regardless if she dialed you by mistake or not, she needed to have an ear. She knew you would listen. Majority of people love to talk, but takes a special person to just listen! The reach out to someone is always good,just as you pointed out, you don't know if you will get the chance to again! Cheers to you! Thanks for your nice comments... She was quite upset and wanted someone to listen to her... She has bee thru a lot and has given so much of herself over the years that she doesn't have much left in the tank... I told her it was ok to say no... She has said yes to so many people over the years... A couple of years ago, she was really into rescuing animals, but she kept complaining that she couldn't breathe... I told her that she was probably allergic to the animals, and to tell the doctor to have her tested for allergies... Well, sure enough, they determined that she needed to get rid of the animals because it was negatively affecting her health... So, she did that and her life improved greatly... I told her that she didn't need to save the world... I'm just a simple man... I make mistakes and I am not a saint, but, when it comes to my small circle of friends I hope that I have the time to give!!! Thanks again, for the kind words!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Everything happens for a reason. This just shows us how wonderful you are. A very sweet man with a kind heart! hugsssssssssss V Thanks for your lovely comments... I am just a guy... I do appreciate the compliments!!! Have a great day! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi Joy. Thanks for reading and commenting on my blog... BTW, I luved the tat... Very nice... Still, I thought you might change it to read: "Easy Going was here..." Well, I thought that would be really cool. However, that does sound a little bit subjective!!! Sometimes I do lend an ear, a shoulder... Thanks again Joy!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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