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They came out of thin air today, funny what the holidays will do to people... I don't know if you
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They came out of thin air today, funny what the holidays will do to people... I don't know if you They came out of thin air today, funny what the holidays will do to people... I don't know if you remember that I have written about some of my lovers from the past... Well, today is a rare and special day for me as the year passes me by every now and then on thanksgiving... I"ve always told my mother that I was the perfect one given to her to deliver on a day that every one gives thanks... of course, like many women, she rolls her eyes and flips her hair... I get that a lot... anyway, two of my past lovers reached out to me today... they've been relatively quiet these past few years... I only hear from them on my birthday, Christmas and new years... sometimes on father's day... but, I don't expect or anticipate... I sure do enjoy hearing from them... they each have similar stories... they live over 500 miles from me... but, the distance was not all that far when we met... One lives in Kansas where I used to reside years ago... the other lives in New Mexico... Each is taking care of their parents due to age and illness and circumstance... they are wonderful passionate women that wanted more in a relationship than I was able to give... they never forget these special occasions... they either text me, call me or send me an email message... it's always short, sweet, simple... I will do the same... what is it that keeps them coming back with the door open, but, not quite all the way... It's been three years since I saw one and four years since I saw the other one... they are special women... they deserve someone that can provide for all of their needs without thinking twice about it... 'I say, if it's not you, if it's not you... it will be no one...' and that's what it seems like... I feel that if I just dropped everything and journeyed to them, that that would be it... but, I haven't done that... I should just let them go... just like some of the songs that I listen to... 'say my name but in that tone again...' yes, that's how they say my name... they don't change the tone, the inflection of their voice... the pauses... the uncomfortable silence that could lead to a question of total finality... as opposed to that open possibility, never asked, never pushed, always there in the background... these women are passionate, loving, caring... they see Dreamboy... but, they've wanted more, they've needed more, but, they never asked... it seemed like they made choices... They always enjoyed my music, conversation, trips to the museums; concerts; restaurants; and the passion that we shared... oh, there was passion, but that wasn't all there was... just thought I'd share that tonight... thanks for reading... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!  |
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Hi Joy. Thanks for the nice comments... I agree Have a great weekend! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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I too apologize for not realizing yesterday was your birthday, so an sending you a belated big, warm hug! The women whose lives you have touched have obviously been deeply moved to continue to reach out and remember you. Not everyone has the ability or interest to maintain contact when they move on to other relationships, etc. I have always thought it was very healthy to have friendships with both genders. Have a wonderful weekend! 
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I too apologize for not realizing yesterday was your birthday, so an sending you a belated big, warm hug! The women whose lives you have touched have obviously been deeply moved to continue to reach out and remember you. Not everyone has the ability or interest to maintain contact when they move on to other relationships, etc. I have always thought it was very healthy to have friendships with both genders. Have a wonderful weekend! thanks for the wishes... No apologies necessary... even if you did know it was my birthday, it is just a day, afterall, and it went off very well, as I spent a wonderful day with my grandkids... they are the only people that can choose to love a person, and they don't have to... As a simple man, I always kicked and screamed in my transition to a life from a single person to marriage, to children, to grandchildren... and, I wondered if another person can love a person without having to... like the love that I have for my parents... And, it is possible... but, with the grandkids, they definitely have choices and they know as you and I did, whether grandparents have the time for them... I've also treasured time over gifts, money whatever... and, I've always stated such to people even when I was travelling earlier in my career. I felt it important to be the person you can be when you have to be, or what is the point? it doesn't make sense and I don't believe in the afterlife... I believe in this life and try (don't always succeed, because the temptations are so incredible) to be what I need to be when it needs to be done... so, even when I was dog-tired from a business trip, I still had many things that I had to do, and I had to focus... and, now as a grandparent, I hope that I can do that as well... but, if you don't think about those things, one day you will wake up and say: 'what happened, is this all there is?'... I've met people like that and, I don't want to be one... sorry about the long-winded response... yes, you are right, not everyone has the ability or interest to maintain contact with a person... it does warm my heart that they have reached out... thanks again for your comments! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi Sexy_Sandra. thanks for the birthday cake. I luv thinking of a beautiful woman popping out of that cake like from movies I've seen... that would just be icing on the cake... hmmmm.... thanks again!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hello texasboobies. thanks for the happy birthday wishes... I'll have to go check out your profile... Hmmm... what could I have done to inspire change, or additions to that lovely profile of yours... I'm excited just to go read it... I agree with you... overstaying a welcome is not a good thing for one of the lovers, although the other one could disagree... the experience can be difficult, but, I've never forced anything on any of my lovers... 'live and let live'... I always say that, ever seeing the James Bond movie: 'Live and let die...' it just meant something to me... reminds me of the song 'Human' by 'Civil Twilight'... I like it... thanks again... I'll read your updated profile!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Big Happy Birthday to you! An many more .. I hope you had a good one! hugsssss V   Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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Big Happy Birthday to you! An many more .. I hope you had a good one! hugsssss V thanks for the birthday wishes and pics... I luv the one with the sprinkles!!! Hmmm.... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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I missed this post earlier today. Happy belated birthday.  It is interesting about the communication from your past lovers. I had the habit of sending texts to past lovers but not from too long ago. In fact one from last December messaged me today. He lives an hour and half away and is quite busy but texts me occasionally. I am not really his type but he does enjoy my company and calls me "my friend." I had wanted more from him as he is very interesting. He has never loved someone with his whole heart. He was in an arranged marriage(Greek parents arranged it for him when he was 21). The marriage lasted 13 years and they had one son. Then he came back to the US and in one drunken night got his hair stylist pregnant. He had her move i with him for a while. He tried to make it work but she had a drinking problem. He had to get full custody of his son as she was unfit and neglected the boy. He is very protective of him now. He is a good Dad and I applaud him for that. I suppose if I lived closer I would make an effort to be with him. I don't know why I am mentioning this except he was on my mind today as he texted me. We only had two dates. In fact....this decided it. I am going to write about our first date. It was a riot. Not typical at all.. LOLthanks for reading me... I enjoy your blogs as you know... You know, it is interesting to read comments on the site and every now and then, something touches you or stirs a memory that you had buried deep down inside... that happens to me a lot on here... I like it, because it is like a breath of fresh air, from an unlikely spot... and, it motivates me to write or share things that are down deep inside recesses that I don't visit often... some things that I share, I've never uttered to 'real' people outside of the mask that I wear here... so, in my way of thinking it still is a secret... well, I believe that it is... and, I'm surprised that some of my posts cause people to reflect for a moment... it is quite gratifying to experience it... when you write, you write things that (for the most part) have happened to you, but, you think about it now, and hurry to write it down... as, people spark me (that's funny, 'cause when my daughter comes to visit, and she plays the piano, I ask her to spark me (reference to Colplay 'Sparks' and then I ask her to 'sting' me; reference to 'shape of my heart from sting'... and so on, and so on...))... I will think... I have to write about that... who cares... nobody knows the real me here.... so, I had behind the mask that I wear, 'because the mask I wear is one...' and, the words flow easily for me... they are not the carefully chosen words that you and others write... but, they will do fine for me... as they convey the thoughts that are pouring out of this simple brain... thanks for posting... don't worry about 'belated' wishes... I luv them whenever they come... and, I my fav color is blue... and I luv getting and giving flowers, mostly roses... have a great day!!!! can't wait to read about that first date... please make it happy!!! laters.... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Happy Belated Birthday, Dreamboy! It is no wonder, but a great testament to you, that these women keep up with you despite needing more from you than you choose to give (at the moment). I'm glad you can cherish these women and the relationships as they are in the present
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Happy Belated Birthday, Dreamboy! It is no wonder, but a great testament to you, that these women keep up with you despite needing more from you than you choose to give (at the moment). I'm glad you can cherish these women and the relationships as they are in the present thanks for your kind birthday wishes... I'm just a simple man, really, that's all I am... I've been lucky in that I've been able to share some wonderful moments with lovers that have enjoyed my company as much as I enjoyed theirs... and, afterwards, they didn't poof me into thin air or out of their memories completely... People are people... just because decisions are made to leave or end a relationship, doesn't mean that they turn into ogres... what is gratifying to me is the fact that they have pleasant and fond memories and they do take the time to reach out to me... No one is asking them too... And, I do appreciate it and let them know... thanks again, for writing! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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