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Religion and swinging
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Religion and swinging So a friend of mine is having this talk with me about a recent article on the advice line about religion. The husband wants his former wild wife, who had found religion to return to her former wild sexually ways. So I will put this out here for comments and in a few days will give my views. So anyone have any thing to say?? |
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Not really... there are many religions, all have different legendary action figures.... depending on that one may consider some ways good or bad. I don't like to mix fantasy and reality.
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I stick with do unto others.. The rest has been interpreted so much who knows what it really meant.
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I met a couple, through this very website, who consider themselves fundamentalist Christians, but swing. They are seriously conservative, earth created in six actual days, home schooling folks. They had somewhat different views on it though. The woman enjoyed their three ways (MFM mostly), but saw it as staying connected to her husband. The husband was more of a free spirit. I am not religious myself, but we talked about how they could pursue their pleasures and remain true to their beliefs. Mostly they seemed to just accept that these two things, swinging and Christianity, could not be reconciled and go ahead with both. Nice people.
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It all come down to one's interpretation of religious standards. I'll use Christianity as an example, since it is the most common religion in our area. "Go Forth. Be fruitful and multiply." is the first order, although it varies a little from version to version, book to book, denomination to denomination. But the command is pretty straight forward. The difference is, most ladies in the swinging lifestyle dont want tons of babies.....So swinging can be view as practice for when you do. LOL "Thou shall not commit adultery." This one gets a little fuzzy, so the first thing we have to do is define what adultery is. is it the sex? or is the deception leading up to the sex? This is always one of my favorite discussion with people when they discover June and I are swinger. "You cheat on your wife?" "You let your wife cheat on you?" No. We have never cheated on each other. People are always taken aback with that statement. Then I ask them to define cheating/adultery. Almost everyone says its the sex. Then I counter, "so all the time he/she spent with the other person before sex, without your knowledge or permission, wasn't cheating? Which would cause more damage to your relationship; the lies and deception for days, weeks, months, or 30 minutes of sex with another person? Usually people want to say something at that moment, but the light bulb turns on. Yea I thought so. So Swinging and Religion can go hand and hand, or not.
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Wow I thought alot of people would jump into this post. Guess not. So here is my take. There are several religions, some forbid swinging. Others like the Hindus have the Kama Sutra. They believe that one has a duty to enjoy the pleasures here and now. One of the huge problems is how true have things been handed down over time? There have been Jewish laws added over time. A recent article I read about masterbation and Christianity stated that to masterbate was not a sin unless you did so to prevent having children. Sex can be a powerful driving force. Take monks and nuns. By not having sex that energy could be channeled into other activities. Adultery has been defined as cheating. But in an open marriage is there cheating? I believe the real sin would to cheat and destroy a marriage. So is it possible to have both? Maybe depending on your beliefs. I do think honesty goes a long way. After all Jesus said said love your neighbor, didn't he?
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One of the biggest "problems" with religion (and i am not religious, just to be upfront about it) is that they change things to fit whatever they want. Swinging cannot be considered cheating simply because it is being done with the spouses/significant others permission. Cheating is the act of sex, including the flirting and more importantly the desire leading up to the actual event without the permission or knowledge of said significant other. Swinging can cause problems in a relationship if they parties involved are not 100% committed and truthful with each other. But in most cases with couples who swing it is a way to either bring closeness to one another or to just simply enjoy the passions and excitement that sex brings without putting limits or boundaries on it. Leave religion out of your sex life and you will have a very fulfilling sex life. Just my opinion for whatever thats worth
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