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Friend VS Acquaintance
Friend VS Acquaintance I got a text today from a random number asking if I was at work. Naturally, I was skeptical and hostile toward it, immediately demanding the identity of the owner. The response surprised and embarrassed me a little. It was a text from someone who I had considered to be a good friend. We have known each other since middle school and remain in frequent contact via email.... etc. It didn't take long for me to realize that, for someone who was supposed to be such a good friend, I hadn't actually spoken to her in person for almost 2 years. The last time I had even seen her was on my 40th birthday. She was in town for a funeral and wanted to know if I wanted to do a little shopping with her. A part of me is a little hurt that she just didn't stop in where I was working to say Hi. The rational side of me knows that, if she had stopped in, she would have had to put forth an effort and actually followed through with the request. With a text, you have the gratification of "I tried to get in touch with you" without the actual effort. She knew the chances that I was at work were high, and probably not able to check my phone anyway, so a text to see if I was at work was pointless. It just gave the appearance of "I tried to get in touch with you." I have known for a while that our friendship is fading. This just kind of gave me clarity on the subject. There was a time that I told her everything..... Now we basically exchange pleasantries and keep each other posted on our 's accomplishments. I haven't even told her that I recently broke things off with the boyfriend. It saddens me a little to know my friend has become merely an acquaintance. |
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It's not 2 years of silence. We email frequently, sometimes daily. We just don't talk on the phone. Texting is silence. You have to talk to them, or you lose the bond.
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You are right, it does take two. Even though we email, maybe that just isn't enough.
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Some people just move on and become friendlier with friends who stay in touch. Two years of silence can drop you easily off her totem of whom she thinks of, as friends.
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Some people just move on and become friendlier with friends who stay in touch. Two years of silence can drop you easily off her totem of whom she thinks of, as friends.
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It happens.Two woman years is a lot longer than two man years when it comes to seeing old friends.Sounds like she made the effort at least and didn't just blow into town and avoid you! \I am a complete stranger and even I could tell that something seemed to be bothering you! Sounds like the balls in your court! I'm bothered by the fact that the friendship has faded.
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So instead you decided to blog about it, for a mass of people you don't know and will never meet. What do you think would have been the better action?
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It happens.Two woman years is a lot longer than two man years when it comes to seeing old friends.Sounds like she made the effort at least and didn't just blow into town and avoid you! \I am a complete stranger and even I could tell that something seemed to be bothering you! Sounds like the balls in your court! Using more than all the road!
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So instead you decided to blog about it, for a mass of people you don't know and will never meet. What do you think would have been the better action?
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