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Choosing A Fling or a Relationship?
Choosing A Fling or a Relationship? He picked up her wine glass and filled it partway. She accepted the glass from him, took a sip and then set it down. “We need to talk.” “Really? About what?” he asked. “About this,” she replied. She felt impatient with her own inability to express herself, even her own discomfort. “What about it?” he cocked his head, his tone gentle, not challenging. “I thought we were friends, colleagues. Are we starting something here? Are we trying to have some kind of relationship?” she implored. She could barely catch her breath yet had to continue, “You already said you don’t like to compromise. Well I don’t either. We aren’t anymore. Life is complicated. We can’t pretend that everything is easy.” “I hear you,” he commented as he sipped his wine. “We are adults. We have jobs and responsibilities.” She threw her hands up in frustration. “What are we doing here, really? What are you looking for? Seems the only thing that makes sense is a fling. Is that what you want…a fling?” “No,” he answered quietly while setting down his wine glass. ”I don’t want a fling.” “Then what? Just exactly what do you want?” she asked impatiently. “Something real. Something serious. Something that lasts,” he responded very deliberately. She sat still, barely able to breathe. It was just the answer she wanted and yet the one she feared the most. “I want the same thing,” she forced herself to say aloud although it wasn’t easy to be so vulnerable. “I am not looking for a fling or a one-night stand either. Those just aren’t worth the time or trouble.” “I agree, they aren’t," he nodded. “But what about the issue of compromising? Neither of us wants that.” “I don’t have all the answers right now. I’m trying to figure this out. I didn’t know I wanted anything like this. At least, not until I met you.” His dark eyes looked deep into hers. “If you really want to know what I want, it’s a chance with you.” “But you don’t even know me,” she stammered. “What I know so far, I really like. I like how honest you are. I like how smart you are. I like that you are sexy. I like your passion about things other than yourself.” He leaned over, staring at her through the candlelight, taking her soft hand in his. “I don’t expect this to be easy. You are not easy. But I think there is something unmistakable between us,” She blinked in disbelief. “Why not take a chance, on us?” She knew then, that this was exactly what she wanted. What are their chances of making it work? |
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Deciding between a fling and wanting a relationship is complicated.
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2/20/2019 9:19 pm |
Yes it is but having that special Person is all so nice... You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!
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Nice story and charm the knickers off of them
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I'll give them a 50, 50 shot. At least they're both willing to make a go of it, and that's a start. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Yes it is but having that special Person is all so nice...
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I'll give them a 50, 50 shot. At least they're both willing to make a go of it, and that's a start.
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Well gee that is like what do I take 1/4th of the cake or half the cake or all 4 quarters? . should I take a bath at 70 degree temperature or at 105? . Should I ask her to be my wife, or should I start with asking her out? . Well the good thing about breaking the problems down into a polarity is that always the other, more desirable end that lives in a different world ....will always have to consist of imagination and be of pure thought .... or filthy desire projections. . So if the fling doesn't work out and instead he wants rather than to toss you ... you can always fall back on that relationship. . Saying he didn't know her? No One really knows another ... they can only know themselves ... if you feel they really really know you it just means that you aren't showing up and what they see are just their influence on you. . Maybe if you fall for Him you may wake up One day to realize it has all been nothing but a fling .... Would you rather wake up to realize the fling was the only relationship that mattered. I suspect that often both happen, but not in the same body, just in a shared move ... so more than a rom com ... a regular Romactiohorridy! A real buster of office boxes. Your novella reminded me of a song by Lou Reed: . Modern Dance Maybe I should go and live in Amsterdam In a side street in a big canal Spend my evenings in the Van Gogh Museum What a dream, Van Gogh Museum Maybe its time to see Tangiers A different life-style some different fears And maybe I should be Edinburgh In a kilt in Edinburgh Doin' a modern dance Doin' a modern dance Or maybe I should get a farm in Southern France Where the winds are wispy and the villagers dance And you and I we'd sleep beneath a moon Moon in June and sleep till noon And maybe you and I could fall in love Regain the spirit that we once had You'd let me hold you and touch the night That shines so bright, so bright with fright Doin' a modern dance Doin' a modern dance Shit, maybe I could go to Yucatan Where women are women, a man's a man Ah, no one confused, ever loses place With their place in the human race Maybe I'm not cut out for city life The smell of exhaust, the smell of strife And maybe you don't want to be a wife It's not a life being a wife Doin' a modern dance Doin' a modern dance So maybe I should go to Tanganyika Where the rivers run, down mountains tall and steep Or go to India to study chants And lose romance to a mantra's dance I need a guru, I need some law Explain to me the things we saw Why it always comes to this It's all downhill after the first kiss Maybe I should move to Rotterdam Maybe move to Amsterdam I should move to Ireland, Italy, Spain Afghanistan where there is no rain Or maybe I should just learn a modern dance Where roles are shifting the modern dance You never touch you don't know who you're with This week, this month, this time of year This week, this month, this time of year Doin' a modern dance You don't know who you're with modern dance I should move to Pakistan, go to Afghanistan Dance, you don't know who you're with Dance, you don't know who you're with Modern dance And maybe you don't want to be a wife It's not life being a wife Doin' a modern dance You never touch you don't know who you're with Dance, modern dance The roles are shifting dance You never touch you don't know who you're with Dance, modern dance Maybe you don't want to be a wife
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2/21/2019 12:48 am |
i agree, more please
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Nice story and charm the knickers off of them
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HedonicHeathen...thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective and the song.
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Personally, if she were ruminating that much.. i might have to ask hr if this really what she wants and/or go home until she figures it out. I admit work place romances can be stressful at times, mostly stressful with the added fish bowl aspect of having the office staff watching and gossiping.. I give her two months before she gets cold feet and leaves...
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Personally, if she were ruminating that much.. i might have to ask hr if this really what she wants and/or go home until she figures it out. I admit work place romances can be stressful at times, mostly stressful with the added fish bowl aspect of having the office staff watching and gossiping.. I give her two months before she gets cold feet and leaves... Thanks 🙏 for stopping by and providing your perspective.
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"Colleagues" That says it all. No bueno. Plus... he tried to be vague about what he wanted. She called him out on being vague. So he said what he knew she wanted to hear without committing to anything. Now he's babbling to get into her pants. That's just my take on it. I'm a cynical kinda gal in these situations.
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"Colleagues" That says it all. No bueno. Plus... he tried to be vague about what he wanted. She called him out on being vague. So he said what he knew she wanted to hear without committing to anything. Now he's babbling to get into her pants. That's just my take on it. I'm a cynical kinda gal in these situations. Thanks for dropping by and commenting.
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Are the warning signs and the potential of failure part of what makes it so exciting for her? The chance to take a chance with him and turn it into a sustainable relationship? Some of us are fixers and can't help but see the potential over the downside.
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Are the warning signs and the potential of failure part of what makes it so exciting for her? The chance to take a chance with him and turn it into a sustainable relationship? Some of us are fixers and can't help but see the potential over the downside. Thank you 🙏 for dropping by and sharing your perspective.
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I think they both want a relationship with one another but neither one knows how to start it off. I think communication is always the best way and being honest and trusting. Good luck I hope it works out..
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I think they both want a relationship with one another but neither one knows how to start it off. I think communication is always the best way and being honest and trusting. Good luck I hope it works out..
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Hi sexyldy1000. thanks for sharing this story. I've not looked at it from a fling point of view in awhile... hmm... Radiohead - "All I Need" I'm the next act Waiting in the wings I'm an animal Trapped in your parked car I am holidays That you choose to ignore You are all I need You are all I need I'm in the middle of your picture Lying in the leaves I am a moth Who just wants to share your light I'm just an insect Trying to get out of the night... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi sexyldy1000. thanks for sharing this story. I've not looked at it from a fling point of view in awhile... hmm... Radiohead - "All I Need" I'm the next act Waiting in the wings I'm an animal Trapped in your parked car I am holidays That you choose to ignore You are all I need You are all I need I'm in the middle of your picture Lying in the leaves I am a moth Who just wants to share your light I'm just an insect Trying to get out of the night...
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HedonicHeathen...thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective and the song. . A cartoon of two school age boys exiting math class ... one says to the other ... "I found that after I put a slash through the equal sign that the number of possible answers greatly expands." . Well that might be relatively helpful .. you know how helpful those relatives are ... The golden rule is respect in the main aspect, but right minded may realize that correlation does not imply causation. Turning 'imply' into a one gets a term like ? 'implicature' ... which is a great word. I like that word .. even if I sound imimplicature in that declaration. Ok enough metabating ... as always thanks for providing something I'd want to write a reply to.
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You are welcome ... I wish I could post outside the site's domain images ... cuz I got a great one in response to your signature "Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless" . A cartoon of two school age boys exiting math class ... one says to the other ... "I found that after I put a slash through the equal sign that the number of possible answers greatly expands." . Well that might be relatively helpful .. you know how helpful those relatives are ... The golden rule is respect in the main aspect, but right minded may realize that correlation does not imply causation. Turning 'imply' into a one gets a term like ? 'implicature' ... which is a great word. I like that word .. even if I sound imimplicature in that declaration. Ok enough metabating ... as always thanks for providing something I'd want to write a reply to. It's always a delight when someone reads an item on my blog that inspires them to respond. Stay tune...more on the way
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