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The Secret Attraction of Alpha Males
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The Secret Attraction of Alpha Males With the impending release of the sexual thriller, Fifty Shades of Grey, one can not help but find themselves drawn to alpha men. Given the advances that have occured over the last several decades for the feminist movement, many women (myself included) would rather drink gasoline then have a man tell her what to do. But when it comes to entertainment and sex, alpha males get a pass. What is an alpha male, and why is it that independent, successful women are drawn to these types of men? He’s Unpredictable. Check. Powerfully assertive yet yielding at the right moments. Check. He’s an unabashed, indomitable and at times he’s an unstoppable leader. Yet, as strong as he appears, a superior alpha male bows gracefully to feminine intelligence whenever she shows a face wiser than his own. Double Check. But perhaps the most defining characteristic of an alpha male is his overt sexual dominance. I’m not referring exclusively to BDSM themes, although, that can be a factor. In general, the alpha male must feel he is in control of various aspects of the relationship, the woman, or the situation. This can be attractive to a woman because essentially no matter the intellect of the woman, we tend to secretly crave certain aspects of control in order to feel accepted by the male. Which in turn makes an alpha male feel attractive and wanted either sexually or emotionally. There are times women resist alpha’s domination creating a sometimes witty and very solid sexual tension between the pair. Ultimately, like Katherina in Shakespeare’s The Taming the Shrew, the woman relinquishes control in the end. Is it a step back in feminism or a step forward in sexual liberty for women who secretly enjoy relinquishing control to an alpha male but who otherwise are very in control over other aspects of their lives?  |
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not all alpha males are assholes......
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Very nicely written. 
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Great post and it looks like you started a thread of great ideas and views. I have always enjoyed a position in the middle where my partners and I can go from place to place. I guess I have Alpha tendencies- Not a Alpha personality.
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Isn't the goal of feminism for women to have the choice to be and be into what they choose, without the stigmas and barriers an overly paternalistic society would impose? In that light, I can't see a step backward. Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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I heard a news report tonight that said there had been an increase in ER visits with injuries due to sex toys right after the first book came out. Then they tapered off, only to increase when the trilogy came out. Now the ERs are preparing for another increase with the release of the film. I know I shouldn't smile at the story, but I am.
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Interesting post. I, having grown up in the sixties and seventies with a Mother who divorced my step Father when I was in the 1st or 2nd grade have always seen women as equals but different (wonderfully so). My Mother always worked to support a family with four kids. There was a lot to learn from TV shows in that time frame. Anti-prejudice, equality, fairness, respect, loyalty, it seems most shows had a message in them, at least the shows I liked watching. So I have always been in support of feminism and the equality and fairness that goes along with it. Having been in the military I had both men and women as supervisors and I supervised both men and women and I found it easy to treat both equally. About the only time I can think of where I gave any special consideration was when there was a heavy piece of equipment to be carried up or down three or four flights of stairs on a guard tower. Then it was the most capable person or persons depending on who was there as is only reasonable (there were just as many guys who couldn't handle that task as there were women). Seems like I usually did most of the hauling but that was just my own concern that the equipment didn't windup bouncing down the stairs and the resulting problems that would cause. But back to the question. "Is it a step back in feminism or a step forward in sexual liberty for women who secretly enjoy relinquishing control to an alpha male but who otherwise are very in control over other aspects of their lives?" I definitely don't see it as a step back in feminism. But I don't feel that it is a step forward in sexual liberty either as women have always been able to relinquish control to any male whether they were in control over other aspects of their lives or not. I think it is a step forward in feminism when a woman can decide to relinquish control to their partner at times and yet still maintain control of other aspects of their lives. As you have made it clear there is a difference between an alpha male and a controlling jerk. Vive La Difference
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Great to see some excellent feedback from men 
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What a marvelous topic! You are probably correct in asserting that some women have a situational attraction to alpha men (e.g. submissive in the bedroom but not in public). My personal desires are even more nuanced. I can be an alpha male in the bedroom or a restaurant or classroom or anyplace else that role is needed. But I don't want to be alpha all the time. Most of the time I just want to be seductive and romantic. Some of the time I am burned out from working or bicycling or weightlifting and I just want her to take charge. My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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I believe it makes you a whole person. If you are dominant at your work...making decisions and giving orders, then when it comes to sexual life, maybe you should be submissive. This makes you a complete person! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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