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YASMINS ARRANGE MARRIAGE?
YASMINS ARRANGE MARRIAGE? ]Arranged Marriage: 1. Arranged marriages the relationship starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. 2. The parents check the family background and financial status. 3. Arranged marriage offers protection and security to the women (parents choice). 4. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn’t want their to marry outside their community and caste.In the western MOST people usually choose their own marriage partner but this is not the way for all cultures living in western society. Arranged marriages happen ON A REGULAR BASIS. DO YOU AGREE/DISAGREE WITH ARRANGED MARRIAGES? KITTTEN14/YASMIN |
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9/1/2009 8:30 am |
Yasmin wasn't talking about forced marriage, which is a nasty and untypical aspect of Asian arranged marriages, and deserves to be compared with the worst cases of western marriage through chance encounter and attraction. On the other hand, their best deserves to be compared with our best. I will say, though, that arranged marriage works better in an unchanging society, where a person's background pretty well defines his or her values, likely future lifestyle and what they expect sexually. I'm quite fascinated by British Asians, and not just because even in childhood innocence, I though the bronzes in art galleries had it all over the marbles! They have turned out to be a people as different from their roots as Australians or Americans, and vary just as much as anyone in how much they differ, one from another. (I nearly said "to the dismay of the traditionalists", but the existence of a core of nostalgic traditionalists is part of that variety, even if a lot of the others think they are fit to be certified. That's the way it works for us Scots!) That's why arranged marriages largely died out in the enormous social changes of the Victorian era - and why they still exist, or very nearly, in some rural farming communities. It's also why arranged marriage is going to become even riskier than it now is, among the Asian community. I think the commonest pattern already is probably of the children being pushed in the direction of a suitable partner, but not heavily pressurised. That, I think, is a trend that will continue.
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4/4/2009 6:05 am |
I dont know what everyone else has said, but a friend of mine recently went through an arranged marriage, but was divorced a few weeks later. She is a very modern woman, and I was suprised by her decision to go through it. In the end it was mutual, because the guy realised he wasn't going to get what he was expecting, a wife to do as shes told. Im against. Let people choose themselves who they have to spend a large part of their life with. Its just common sense.
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2/14/2009 12:29 pm |
Till about 100 years ago arranged marriages were quite common amongst the upper classes in Europe like it’s quite common today in Asia. This will change with the rising economic power of that region just like it did here in Europe. However, if someone brought up in the West marries someone brought up in the East then it is probably a recipe for disaster especially if it’s a women from the west marrying someone from the east. Network albums & high quality video clips of my undraped body showing my girth (6.5"/16cm) can be viewed at: Going from hard to soft (Horny fat cock)
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hi kitten sorry i think you should be able to make up your own mind who you want to spend the rest of your life with, totally disagree with it but its your culture and you should know whats best for you.
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After 4 marriages & 4 divorces, I don't believe in the concept of marriage at all anymore. That is, it's not for me... lol I know quite a few people that are in arranged marriages & when I have asked them if it has been a happy marriage! The normal answer is "Well yes I suppose so" or "We have learned to love each other." But when I suggested that had they had the chance of choosing their own brides, would they have picked the person that was arranged for them, 8/10 said NO. 9/10 also said that they did not/would not arrange marriages for their children. Dave
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2/12/2009 1:00 pm |
Hi Yasmin My name is Mike. Firstly like many men that see your Profile, I want to briefly say that you are Truly Beautiful. With regard to the arranged marriages, I do not think the process is fair on the individual. A woman should have the human right to select her own partner. She must have a sexual relationship with him & this is not easy when love & potentially attraction is not there. The point made by another respondent regarding the track record of love marriages, need to be tempered with the fact that at least the women made their own choices & initially will have enjoyed love & happiness. I do not believe that any person should be given the right to choose a partner for another. It runs fundamentally against the human right of self determination & freedom of choice. Love & a big hug. Mike
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2/9/2009 5:20 am |
hope someone arranges the two of us getting married
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disagree totally..
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2/8/2009 6:44 pm |
Disagree, everyone should have the choice to be with who they want
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you don't sound like the marrying type....
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Hi Kitten, Many of us feel the concept of arranged marriage is alien and cold. However non-arranged marriages don't have much of a track record. A lot of these seem to end in misery, especially for women. I think the issue is one of coercion. If pressure is brought to bear in any case, then that's wrong. Jim
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2/8/2009 3:43 pm |
I think there are advantages and disadvantages, however what I totally diagree with is the EXPECTATION that most Asian people will get married at some point in their lives. I mean how many Asian's never marry compared to white's or black's? Not many I can assure you and that I feel is more of an issue than the actual practice of arranging a union. Asian culture has a stricter moral code than white society, with values that have been passed down through the centuries and marriage and the family are at the heart of those. But I have seen the effects of conformity within the Asian community which often comes through a lack of choice and the effects can be devastating. This is why expectation and family pride must be balanced with the needs and choices of the individual particularly where women are concerned.
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2/8/2009 2:54 pm |
Disagree. Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy, Greg
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